31 days

littlelexi

I’m cheating this week with my Sweet Shot,
and I know it.
This photo was taken eight years ago with an Olympus point-and-shoot, my first “real” camera. It was film, and has aged, and lacks in quality, but I think it is the Sweetest. Shot. Ever. This is my daughter, Lexi, and she was about four years old in this photo. We were at the airport and she had just hung up the phone that is behind her on her imaginary friend or business meeting or dance agent or Dora, for all I know, and she was skipping back to us, free as a bird, because that is how she moves. It reminds me of her spirit, her energy, and her confidence.

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Which she gets from her dad.
And maybe a little from me.

lexi in swim goggles

I have a friend from the gym and she and I have been brewing over how important self-confidence is in girls.
And that unfortunately, not all girls are blessed with families or life experiences or genetics that provide that. We wanted to come up with programming to nurture self-esteem in little girls, but have had a hard time finding a venue that would target the girls who need it the most.

lexi on horseback I also serve on an advisory board that aims to improve the health of all women in our community, and one of the topics we are tackling is the issue of teenage pregnancy in our area. We live in the county with the highest rate of teen pregnancy in our state, and in a state that is among the highest in rate of teen pregnancy in our country. One of the issues that most experts discuss when addressing teen pregnancy is lack of self-esteem.
lexi playing basketball In fact, I think self-esteem is critical in most areas of success for all children, and maybe because we are called the weaker sex, I think especially in girls.
swimmer girl
And I have wanted to use my blog for bigger things…
For spreading joy
and for inspiring good.
Then the 31 Days ladies invited us to join them in a 31 Day series. It was the perfect storm for me… an opportunity to put these things all together and hopefully rain down beautiful things for little girls.

lexi ice skating

So today, I am committing to the 31 Days series with “31 Days to Nurture Her Self-Esteem”. Beginning October 1st, I will be posting ideas, suggestions and activities {maybe a few recipes, too}, and inspiration, meant to stroke your child’s {because, really, these things will work to nurture self-esteem in your boys, too} self-esteem. I hope you will join me; it couldn’t be more important.
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Is there any specific thing(s) that you do now to nurture your child’s self-esteem?

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Seeing Each Day - September 20, 2011 - 10:52 am

No that’s not cheating at all. That first shot really is ever so sweet. And your last is very emotive.

kim - September 20, 2011 - 10:59 am

It’s hard for me not to type a full chapter here. I would be interested in helping you locally if there’s anything I could do in my time off. This is such an important project. Thanks for posting.

deb - September 20, 2011 - 11:42 am

This is such a wonderful topic! I’m looking forward to your series even though I do have boys.

Marty - September 20, 2011 - 12:18 pm

Beautiful Patty! Pictures brought tears to my eyes. What a great project. You are an amazing advocate for our community of young women.

karen - September 20, 2011 - 12:29 pm

patty, i am so in to help you with whatever you might need. being in the schools, that is such a big concern. let me know how i could help in this area.

emily - September 20, 2011 - 1:09 pm

What a great idea! That first shot is priceless!

Gina - September 20, 2011 - 1:45 pm

Beautifully written & beautiful shots! She is LOVELY!! I think it’s a fine line that we all walk as women. We want to be the best person we can inside & out – but trying not to be too critical at the same time can be difficult.

Chantale - September 20, 2011 - 2:25 pm

This is such an incredible post. That first image is priceless, I really love it. Actually, I love all of these photos. They’re gorgeous. You have a beautiful daughter. She looks wonderfully self-confident already. : )

joann - September 20, 2011 - 4:02 pm

I always tell them, “I love you when you’re good, I love you when you’re not, I love you all the time. No matter what, I love you.”

Great idea patty. I’m thinking of hopping in to the 31 days thing…but I’m skeered. :)

Susan - September 20, 2011 - 11:00 pm

Sounds wonderful. I’ll be back!!

Cathy - September 21, 2011 - 12:59 am

Service to others (regularly)
An outlet outside of school which provides a different social group
Listening to them
Laughing with them (and helping them to keep things in perspective)
Being grateful out loud
Having fun together
Keeping our home a sanctuary
Reminding them we (parents) experienced the same insecure feelings…it’s part of growing up
Explaining actions (their’s and others) by bringing in self esteem (eg “you know so and so sleeps around because she is searching for something, etc) and talking about how we don’t always have to act on our feelings
Telling them how much I enjoy their company (difficult through puberty :)
Setting boundaries and having consequences (even though they complain “you’re so strict!” sometimes, I know they feel safe and have used us as a reason to make the better choice (we tell them to blame us, eg “my parents would literally ground me for life!”)

I’ll keep thinking :)

xoxo

teachinfourth - September 21, 2011 - 3:49 am

You have a wonderful set of photos here…it’s amazing just how quickly time goes.

Stasha - September 21, 2011 - 7:04 am

Lovely shot, all of them. In fact the first one is great, old is gold remember!

mindymusing - September 22, 2011 - 1:08 am

I love this set of photos. That first one just captures the unadulterated joy of childhood. I also love the idea of the whole post. Thanks for sharing it.

Ruth - September 27, 2011 - 8:35 pm

I look forward to this wonderful series. Your words are always thought provoking and moving. I know that we will all be blessed by your insight.

Ruth

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