1440 {116} :: hello





i hope you are having a lovely holiday season… that your thanksgiving was filling, and i mean for more than your tummy, and that you are finding some way to enjoy the peaceful spirit of christmas.


as for me and mine, we fall into bed at night, spent, for all there is to do. sometimes i feel my days spinning out of my control, and then i’m reminding that i never did have control… that’s just a false impression i choose to believe. but we keep our focus, we check off the to-do’s and still set aside time to enjoy sitting together with our christmas tree warming our space and reminding us of what’s important. i hope you find time to do the same.


thank you for meeting me here, in spite of all there is to do and all the chaos that creeps in this time of year. thank you for sharing your beautiful images and reminding me that we have all these moments every day to choose to focus on the beautiful things in life.




ps: come visit monday, as i open my home for a virtual christmas home-coming and holiday tour! see you then!



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Dina - December 5, 2014 - 1:35 pm

Oh…control. Something I struggle with daily.

Rese - December 5, 2014 - 3:04 pm

oh . . . getting things done . . . not very good at this task lately!

Ross - January 12, 2015 - 1:56 am

Great shot! Yes I hear what your saying when it comes to the business of the Christmas season! Hope it was great for you and that fun was had! Take care and all the best for the coming week.

Julia Perry-Sullivan - January 17, 2015 - 2:53 pm

Beautiful as always-!
Patty, where could I reach you by email about your photography & pictures?
Thank you so much-

Suzanne - February 6, 2015 - 11:13 pm

Hi Patty! Just realized
this week when I responded
by email to your lovely
comments on my blog that
you have are registered as
“no-reply blogger” on
Blogger/Google. So any
notes I’ve sent you in the
past have gone out into
the black hole! Ugh. Also
noticed that your blog has
mysteriously disappeared
from my blog list, so I’ve
just added you back. Hmm…

Hope your 2015 is off to
a great start and that you’ll
be back to blogging, soon.

Have a wonderful weekend!

xo suzanne

Southern Gal - February 26, 2015 - 1:26 am

Hi Patty. I hope all is well with you. Miss your blog posts and beautiful photography. Hugs.

1440 {115} :: on hold

if you are from anywhere near here, you probably recognize this space. it’s beautiful, isn’t it? {yes, #easttennesseeisbeautiful… one of my Instagram missions… }

i’m 13 days into a 31 day commitment, that officially ended the last day of october. but true to form, i twisted the challenge to meet my needs. i’m busy. what more can i say? but i loved writing in the past… and it is the topic, diving deep into one area, that i loved about the 31 Days challenge… truth be told, i can’t read blogs-even my favorite, when there are daily posts. i’m compulsive about reading every one; it’s overwhelming.

and i know i’ve said it before… i’ve missed this space. i’ve missed being here on a regular basis, leaning in as if sharing secrets with a dear friend. i am not short on topics to write about… that’s for sure. i am now 2/3’s an empty nester and if that doesn’t stimulate a blog post or two, nothing will! and my youngest is about to be driving… my husband is on the cusp of beginning a new adventure {and i love to hang on to his coattails!}… the season is changing and i’ve been the busiest i’ve ever been with my photography…

so i put aside my 31 days for a bit. i want-hope-plan to come back here a few days each week… and i will finish talking about kindness… there’s still kindness and raising kids, and sharing kindness with your friends, neighbors, community… and finally, kindness with strangers. it’s an amazing topic, truly…. and i hope you’ll share with us when i post them here…

so don’t be shy. stop by and leave your thoughts and opinions… have an awesome weekend!



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Kathy - November 14, 2014 - 1:42 pm

Lovely golden tones!

Ramona - November 14, 2014 - 4:15 pm

These are gorgeous, I LOVE that golden light!!

Sandy - November 14, 2014 - 6:16 pm

Eastern Tennessee is my most wonderful place on earth to go! The pictures are beautiful!

Dina Lettre - November 14, 2014 - 7:44 pm

Such lovely color, Patty!

Jesh SrG - November 14, 2014 - 8:04 pm

Love your second capture…because it takes me beyond …what will I see next …great job!

Sarah - November 15, 2014 - 12:04 am

Sounds like you have a great life going on.

Helena - November 15, 2014 - 8:59 am

Thank you for these wonderful images and deep thoughts, would like to connect with you on instagram too, shall try to find you there :) xxx

Barbara Hurst - November 21, 2014 - 12:54 pm

What a gorgeous area, and fall images. The light is just wonderful and truly speaks of Thanksgiving in them. Have a wonderful weekend.

Julia - November 24, 2014 - 3:49 am

Gorgeous! Thanks for sharing-
Happy Thanksgiving :-)

Liz - January 23, 2015 - 7:38 am

The light in these images is divine!!

Jeff Griffith - June 6, 2015 - 11:14 pm

Hey Patty,
Please check your Flickr profile email account regarding one of your great images. Sent you an email there.
thanks so much,
Jeff Griffith, Creative Director

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1440 {114} :: 25 Ways To Be Kind To Your Spouse…

…That You May Not Have Already Thought Of

1.  Give a him a foot massage {head massage, back massage, shoulder massage…}.

2.  Do a chore that is normally her responsibility.

3.  Tell him you love him.

4.  Compliment her.

5.  Clean out his car.

6.  Leave her love notes.

7.  Grant him grace. {Even when you don’t think he deserves it.}

8.  Wish her a good day as you leave.

9.  Turn off social media during meals and other times used to reconnect.

10. Plan a special and unexpected event or date.

11. Let him sleep late.

12. Draw her a hot bath and then shuttle the littles to another room for a special movie night with you.

13. Bake his favorite treat/dessert.

14. Visit her social media spaces and say hello/love you/hey hot stuff…. whatever works for you two.

15. Adopt his favorite past time so you can share down time together. {Have you seen my motorcycle pictures on instagram?!}

16. Touch.

17. Pay attention to the things that are important to each other {if she likes driving around looking at Christmas lights, be sure you pick a favorite Christmas CD to listen to while you drive, and stop at a coffee house or bakery for hot chocolate and cookies… if he looks forward to Sunday afternoon football, create some football-friendly tailgate type snacks/lunch to enjoy with the game}. Make the special things special.

18. Grant grace freely.

19. Send text messages spontaneously… Say hello/love you/hey hot stuff… you remember.:)Or just when something happens during your day to remind you of her, to let her know.

20. Give her space to unwind, but try to be there for her when she needs you.

21. Laugh with each other, and make each other laugh. Humor is not too far behind Kindness in the list of what’s important in a marriage.

22. Compliment frequently.

23. Step in and handle the difficult for him.

24. Put away your shoes. That’s all. Just, put away your shoes.;)

25. Set aside one time during the week as date night. Date night doesn’t have to involve money or fancy plans. {It could be a walk in the snow, a ride through the mountains, a movie on netflix with made-at-home popcorn…} It does, however, involve time. Time away from the normal, from the stresses… Time alone and time to reconnect. This nurtures your marriage by showing your spouse that they are important enough to you to set aside that time. Giving someone {anyone} acknowledgment or time is kindness to the Nth degree.

What unusual ways do you show kindness to your spouse?



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Beverly - November 7, 2014 - 12:40 pm

Beautiful post, and such kind things to do for one another!! The first one is a standing “Friday night foot rub” for hubby. Thank you for sharing!

Viv Halliwell - November 7, 2014 - 2:04 pm

Some great ideas there. I’m taking note..

Reese - November 7, 2014 - 2:52 pm

ahh – so true so true – 24! BINGO!! drives me insane! I may send this to my hubbie- but I think he would get mad!

artmusedog and carol - November 7, 2014 - 4:15 pm

Gorgeous photography and lovely suggestions ~ am widowed so glad you are showing appreciation to your spouse ~

Happy Weekend to you,
artmusedog and carol (A Creative Harbor)

Dotti - November 7, 2014 - 7:30 pm

Great list and I love the gentle photos that accompany it.

Sarah - November 7, 2014 - 10:59 pm

So many good things here. I love putting away social media any time together, and my husband will leave me random love notes now and again. I love that.

Kristy Lifenreflection - November 8, 2014 - 2:08 pm

So thoughtful and funny too!

Molly - November 10, 2014 - 11:34 pm

Laughter all the way, that is the key


BiTi - November 13, 2014 - 5:07 pm

Beautiful post, thank you for sharing. Could I add ‘listen’ to the list? Sometimes your partner just want to an ear :)
Have a lovely weekend!

Ramona - November 14, 2014 - 10:15 am

These are nice, we do most of them to each other. Lol at 24 because I am the one who should put away my shoes/clothes/etc. :):)

Julia - November 24, 2014 - 3:53 am

These were wonderful ideas- Thank you!
And your Fall Break pictures: Just perfect. I loved every one!
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1440 {113} :: Fall Break

golden litter


it’s been a year. and the season goes by so quickly.

autumn light

i’m taking a mini break from my 31 days that will linger here for a while… i love the topic… just so much going on now. so much to be grateful for…

do you feel particularly grateful in the fall?  when the leaves drop and the world feels just a little smaller? a little older… more mature? more secure? i surely do. if it’s not the season, then it’s surely the experience.


i’ve been practicing gratitude this year with my personal instagram account, pattyx24. {and i’ve finally added a professional account :: pc.photography -come join me!} i’m amazed at how often i turn to the same thoughts… those few things i’m deeply grateful for….

the crowd

my husband and our friendship

my children


our health

and this beautiful, beautiful space in which we live


my short and concise, and most accurate, most sincere gratitude list.

the others, the luxuries, i’m grateful for them, too… it just seems so much more superficial to be grateful for this cup of coffee, every morning, though that luxury is not wasted on me… not when i know there are those who are hungry, right here in my community, as i push the button for a second, fresh, steamy, rich cup of joe.


what are you most grateful for this autumn morning, this all hallow’s eve, when day turns darker and october rolls over… when color drifts down around and sleepy faces snuggle deeper for ‘one more minute’… what warms your heart and tickles your toes most?

be safe. have fun. remember the apples. and save me some butterfingers.



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12/31 & 1440 {112} :: Kindness In Marriage


kindness might be the single most important thing in marriage.

he walks in the door and no matter what i am doing, or where i am in the house, i at least pop my head around the corner, make eye-contact and welcome him home. i’ve learned after 26 years that these are critical and precious moments, the first few back inside the safety of home, where the stresses, the facades, the responsibilities can be left – at least momentarily – on the back doorstep. i also know that for him, these are moments best experienced alone… so after i say hello, i go back to what i was doing and let him decompress quietly, peacefully, alone.

whereas i crave conversation and companionship, he craves quiet. it took me a while {ummm, years?} to learn this about us, and to learn to respect this difference. i also learned that when i give him his quiet homecoming, he gives me friendship and companionship and conversation shortly after. and so it works… understanding that what we each want is different, respecting and putting each other’s desires before our own… treating each other with kindness.

kindness in marriage is just like kindness in other relationships. except when we share space and our selves so intimately, we start to assume our mates will know what we mean…. that they will understand…. and we start to put our selves first. we speak without thought, we act selfishly. we start to see past what our partners want or need and go straight to what we need from them. this is not kindness at all. 

kindness is consideration. 

it is thoughtfulness, and understanding. it is space and quiet, and it is intimate and friendly. it is words, it is acts, it is time given. it is putting another first.  it is consistency and stability, and it is adventure. it is responsibility and it is playfulness.

 it is as important as love and loyalty, and common values. it allows for love.

it is different for each and every one of us, because our needs and desires are different. 

kindness in marriage strengthens bonds. it builds trust. it makes more room for intimacy. 

think about your spouse… consider what his or her needs are, what makes them happy. the daily things… try practicing this thoughtfulness, developing this awareness so that you can treat him or her kindly. talk about it with each other {and with your children}… what is kindness? how do we practice it? what would an act of kindness done to them be? 

{you might be surprised how little it takes to be kind to each other.} 

then see what kindness can do for your relationship and marriage.

what are some ways you and your spouse practice kindness with each other?


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Buckeroomama - October 24, 2014 - 1:39 pm

This post is absolutely golden –your message and your images, both! I believe that kindness is the single most important factor in any relationship.

Cathy H. - October 24, 2014 - 2:31 pm

Beautiful post and images! A very good reminder!

Barb - October 24, 2014 - 2:31 pm

How beautiful and inspirational. I feel exactly the same way … if kindness is our intention, it’s all good. My husband and I just celebrated our 40th and we greet each other in exactly the same way as you described in your first paragraph. Thank you … and your images are beyond stunning.

Julia - October 24, 2014 - 3:06 pm

Beautiful images and wise words!

lisa - October 24, 2014 - 3:15 pm

Oh my, these photos brought tears to my eyes….they are so gorgeous. My husband and I have been married 34 years. We understand that while every single day is not going to be rainbows and butterflies, we are in this for the long haul and keep central, common values in the forefront. Small things matter in a marriage.

Sarah C - October 24, 2014 - 3:17 pm

Such gorgeous photos and yes, I agree, I smile and a kind welcome home are very important!

artmusedog and carol - October 24, 2014 - 3:37 pm

Divine post and photography ~ you are one enlightened person ~ thanks.

Happy weekend coming to you >

artmusedog and carol (A Creative Harbor)

Sheila - October 24, 2014 - 6:41 pm

Wow – your images are stunning. That light! – amazing and golden. Beautiful post too.

Kristeen - October 25, 2014 - 12:55 am

number two and three photo image are so eye catching.. you have inspired me.. Thanks for sharing!

Donna - October 25, 2014 - 6:08 pm

I’m really enjoying this series of posts – reminding me to tend to my marriage and focus on kindness. Your images are stunning. I’d love to see you taking these photos – as it looks as though you must be lying on your stomach to get these views – another dedicated photographer!

Liz - October 31, 2014 - 1:23 am

Beautiful and wise words! An excellent reminder. Your images are gorgeous. Lovely use of light

Ross - November 3, 2014 - 5:55 am

Such beautiful shots. The way you used the light was fantastic and the colors are amazing! Well written post as well.

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