april.may.june.july.august.september.october.november.

did you happen to see the movie Twilight? the part where bella falls into a deep depression after edward leaves her? the camera pans around her and in what i think was brilliant filmography, demonstrates the passage of time through her bedroom window. as the camera spins, we see her walls and then her windows, and then her walls and then her windows again… each time the camera passes the windows, the names of the months appear and the scenery changes… the leaves change color, then fall from their branches, then it snows… and so on.

i look back on this past year and my memories are like the scenes in bella’s windows. april, may, june… prom, graduation, summer… glimpses of a life, as i reach my toes to the ground to stop the room from spinning.

A  P  R  I  L

 

M  A  Y

 

 

J  U  N  E

J  U  L  Y

A  U  G  U  S  T

S  E  P  T  E  M  B  E  R

O  C  T  O  B  E  R

N  O  V  E  M  B  E  R

D  E  C  E  M  B  E  R

J  A  N  U  A  R  Y

F  E  B  R  U  A  R  Y

M  A  R  C  H

 

APRIL || austin’s senior prom; final soccer game

MAY || a special trojan train, a life too soon taken, and #communitylove; austin’s high school graduation

JUNE || paddle boarding with asia; confidence workshop with girls from the boys and girls club; early summer morning in my neighborhood and a stuggle with light and dark

JULY || cleaning and prepping the pool; roasting marshmallows in the rain {it seemed to rain a lot last summer}; a neighborhood creature, my morning friend

AUGUST || both boys left for college, leaving an unfillable, overwhelming space in my heart house;

SEPTEMBER || click away photography conference, salt lake city, utah :: temple square, silver lake, a delightful click-away model & the salt flats

OCTOBER || my beautiful daughter and an autumn sunrise

NOVEMBER || my son teaching my father chess over thanksgiving; an autumn sunset

DECEMBER || christmastime

JANUARY || i turned 50. my husband sent my best friend and me to a special place to celebrate

FEBRUAY || fashion week nyc & a sweet sixteen; my son boxing

MARCH || snowbird utah

 

 

i hope to be sharing these stories in the weeks to come… to put down the memories here before they become soft and indistinguishable with time.

{and then maybe we could consider ourselves caught up, hm?}

 

 

meanwhile, you can see what’s been going on at my photography blog ::

and at pearls for girls, now referred to as GeGe’s ::

nic - March 25, 2015 - 8:44 am

Your photograghs are stunning. ♥nic

Stephanie - March 25, 2015 - 10:19 am

Nice to see you again! As usual, gorgeous shots.

Southern Gal - March 25, 2015 - 11:46 am

There you are. ;)

So, so happy to see your beautiful photos and words again, Patty.

Happy 50th Birthday…late. Sounds like an amazing time your husband planned for you.

I’m so sorry for the loss in your community.

Hugs.

The Breaking of Rose Colored

goodness.

is it march already?

i opened my email one day last week and found a short message from my blog friend renee, at it was brought on by love. it was there shining like a gemstone and nestled among those from lawyers and accountants and business people. she doesn’t know this {yet}, but this little note brought me to tears… and was the gentle push i needed to find my way back here. thank you, renee, for reaching out. i am immeasurably grateful for this small act of kindness.

it’s hard to find the words to tell you where i’ve been the last three-quarters of a year. actually, i’ve been right here… but completely immersed in another world. my regular life is about the same… both boys are away at college and my daughter just turned 16. my husband is still busy as ever at work, and i’m still taking pictures… though i did pause for a few months there.

i am an artist. of this, i am sure. it’s hard for me to force creativeness… art is what happens when i am inspired by real life. and it’s hard to feel inspired when such a big part of your life is wrong. and so the pictures stop. the words are lost. the art is non-existant. the real life is hard and messy, even for the blessed.

i try to find reasons for the things that happen, for the things that people do, and the things that people say. or don’t say.
as if this might help me accept it.

sometimes, the reasons are hard to find. impossible even. understanding is elusive.

 

but i  find solace, always,  in the faith that things happen for a reason… that i am where i am supposed to be… and that we grow through life experiences, even when those experiences are ugly. lessons need to be learned. personalities grow. and while i would say i see things differently now, i don’t see them completely differently. only with a bit less rose-color. i refuse to let darkness steal my light.

 

this is a small part of my picture, one story.

it’s hard to see how these pieces will fit together. perspective is precious, and while we are in the middle of it, we cannot see how this story affects us. it seems all-encompassing, but it is not. it seems large and overwhelming, but it is not.

it is one piece. just one…

 … one part of a larger picture that we cannot yet see.

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May today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that
has been given to you….
May you be content knowing you are a child of God….
Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.

~Prayer of St Teresa

Jen - March 7, 2015 - 2:46 am

I was so excited when I saw this in my bloglovin feed this evening! I get busy and caught up in my life and all the things that I have going on that I sometimes forget how much I’m missing things. And I have definitely missed your posts!

As always, gorgeous photos. Thank you for sharing the journey.

Teresa Cline - March 9, 2015 - 5:01 pm

Welcome back! Missed your beautiful posts!

Dana - March 10, 2015 - 5:32 pm

So glad you’re back!!! Lovely post as well as pictures!

Julia - March 14, 2015 - 8:06 pm

So glad you are back!!! Beautiful- Thank you…

[…] The Breaking of Rose Colored – Finding Serendipity. I didn’t realize how much I had missed Patricia’s posts until this one popped up in my bloglovin’ feed. I have always loved her photos, and one of these days I want to be like here. And Kathy of You’ll Shoot Your Eye Out. I’m glad that Patricia posted these photos and thoughts. […]

1440 {116} :: hello

psst….

 

hello?

 

i hope you are having a lovely holiday season… that your thanksgiving was filling, and i mean for more than your tummy, and that you are finding some way to enjoy the peaceful spirit of christmas.

 

as for me and mine, we fall into bed at night, spent, for all there is to do. sometimes i feel my days spinning out of my control, and then i’m reminding that i never did have control… that’s just a false impression i choose to believe. but we keep our focus, we check off the to-do’s and still set aside time to enjoy sitting together with our christmas tree warming our space and reminding us of what’s important. i hope you find time to do the same.

 

thank you for meeting me here, in spite of all there is to do and all the chaos that creeps in this time of year. thank you for sharing your beautiful images and reminding me that we have all these moments every day to choose to focus on the beautiful things in life.

 

xo

 

ps: come visit monday, as i open my home for a virtual christmas home-coming and holiday tour! see you then!

 

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Dina - December 5, 2014 - 1:35 pm

Oh…control. Something I struggle with daily.

Rese - December 5, 2014 - 3:04 pm

oh . . . getting things done . . . not very good at this task lately!

Ross - January 12, 2015 - 1:56 am

Great shot! Yes I hear what your saying when it comes to the business of the Christmas season! Hope it was great for you and that fun was had! Take care and all the best for the coming week.

Julia Perry-Sullivan - January 17, 2015 - 2:53 pm

Beautiful as always-!
Patty, where could I reach you by email about your photography & pictures?
Thank you so much-
Julia

Suzanne - February 6, 2015 - 11:13 pm

Hi Patty! Just realized
this week when I responded
by email to your lovely
comments on my blog that
you have are registered as
“no-reply blogger” on
Blogger/Google. So any
notes I’ve sent you in the
past have gone out into
the black hole! Ugh. Also
noticed that your blog has
mysteriously disappeared
from my blog list, so I’ve
just added you back. Hmm…

Hope your 2015 is off to
a great start and that you’ll
be back to blogging, soon.

Have a wonderful weekend!

xo suzanne

Southern Gal - February 26, 2015 - 1:26 am

Hi Patty. I hope all is well with you. Miss your blog posts and beautiful photography. Hugs.

1440 {115} :: on hold

if you are from anywhere near here, you probably recognize this space. it’s beautiful, isn’t it? {yes, #easttennesseeisbeautiful… one of my Instagram missions… }

i’m 13 days into a 31 day commitment, that officially ended the last day of october. but true to form, i twisted the challenge to meet my needs. i’m busy. what more can i say? but i loved writing in the past… and it is the topic, diving deep into one area, that i loved about the 31 Days challenge… truth be told, i can’t read blogs-even my favorite, when there are daily posts. i’m compulsive about reading every one; it’s overwhelming.

and i know i’ve said it before… i’ve missed this space. i’ve missed being here on a regular basis, leaning in as if sharing secrets with a dear friend. i am not short on topics to write about… that’s for sure. i am now 2/3′s an empty nester and if that doesn’t stimulate a blog post or two, nothing will! and my youngest is about to be driving… my husband is on the cusp of beginning a new adventure {and i love to hang on to his coattails!}… the season is changing and i’ve been the busiest i’ve ever been with my photography…

so i put aside my 31 days for a bit. i want-hope-plan to come back here a few days each week… and i will finish talking about kindness… there’s still kindness and raising kids, and sharing kindness with your friends, neighbors, community… and finally, kindness with strangers. it’s an amazing topic, truly…. and i hope you’ll share with us when i post them here…

so don’t be shy. stop by and leave your thoughts and opinions… have an awesome weekend!

xo

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Kathy - November 14, 2014 - 1:42 pm

Lovely golden tones!

Ramona - November 14, 2014 - 4:15 pm

These are gorgeous, I LOVE that golden light!!

Sandy - November 14, 2014 - 6:16 pm

Eastern Tennessee is my most wonderful place on earth to go! The pictures are beautiful!

Dina Lettre - November 14, 2014 - 7:44 pm

Such lovely color, Patty!

Jesh SrG - November 14, 2014 - 8:04 pm

Love your second capture…because it takes me beyond …what will I see next …great job!

Sarah - November 15, 2014 - 12:04 am

Sounds like you have a great life going on.

Helena - November 15, 2014 - 8:59 am

Thank you for these wonderful images and deep thoughts, would like to connect with you on instagram too, shall try to find you there :) xxx

Barbara Hurst - November 21, 2014 - 12:54 pm

What a gorgeous area, and fall images. The light is just wonderful and truly speaks of Thanksgiving in them. Have a wonderful weekend.

Julia - November 24, 2014 - 3:49 am

Gorgeous! Thanks for sharing-
Happy Thanksgiving :-)

Liz - January 23, 2015 - 7:38 am

The light in these images is divine!!

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1440 {114} :: 25 Ways To Be Kind To Your Spouse…

…That You May Not Have Already Thought Of

1.  Give a him a foot massage {head massage, back massage, shoulder massage…}.

2.  Do a chore that is normally her responsibility.

3.  Tell him you love him.

4.  Compliment her.

5.  Clean out his car.

6.  Leave her love notes.

7.  Grant him grace. {Even when you don’t think he deserves it.}

8.  Wish her a good day as you leave.

9.  Turn off social media during meals and other times used to reconnect.

10. Plan a special and unexpected event or date.

11. Let him sleep late.

12. Draw her a hot bath and then shuttle the littles to another room for a special movie night with you.

13. Bake his favorite treat/dessert.

14. Visit her social media spaces and say hello/love you/hey hot stuff…. whatever works for you two.

15. Adopt his favorite past time so you can share down time together. {Have you seen my motorcycle pictures on instagram?!}

16. Touch.

17. Pay attention to the things that are important to each other {if she likes driving around looking at Christmas lights, be sure you pick a favorite Christmas CD to listen to while you drive, and stop at a coffee house or bakery for hot chocolate and cookies… if he looks forward to Sunday afternoon football, create some football-friendly tailgate type snacks/lunch to enjoy with the game}. Make the special things special.

18. Grant grace freely.

19. Send text messages spontaneously… Say hello/love you/hey hot stuff… you remember.:)Or just when something happens during your day to remind you of her, to let her know.

20. Give her space to unwind, but try to be there for her when she needs you.

21. Laugh with each other, and make each other laugh. Humor is not too far behind Kindness in the list of what’s important in a marriage.

22. Compliment frequently.

23. Step in and handle the difficult for him.

24. Put away your shoes. That’s all. Just, put away your shoes.;)

25. Set aside one time during the week as date night. Date night doesn’t have to involve money or fancy plans. {It could be a walk in the snow, a ride through the mountains, a movie on netflix with made-at-home popcorn…} It does, however, involve time. Time away from the normal, from the stresses… Time alone and time to reconnect. This nurtures your marriage by showing your spouse that they are important enough to you to set aside that time. Giving someone {anyone} acknowledgment or time is kindness to the Nth degree.

What unusual ways do you show kindness to your spouse?

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Beverly - November 7, 2014 - 12:40 pm

Beautiful post, and such kind things to do for one another!! The first one is a standing “Friday night foot rub” for hubby. Thank you for sharing!

Viv Halliwell - November 7, 2014 - 2:04 pm

Some great ideas there. I’m taking note..

Reese - November 7, 2014 - 2:52 pm

ahh – so true so true – 24! BINGO!! drives me insane! I may send this to my hubbie- but I think he would get mad!

artmusedog and carol - November 7, 2014 - 4:15 pm

Gorgeous photography and lovely suggestions ~ am widowed so glad you are showing appreciation to your spouse ~

Happy Weekend to you,
artmusedog and carol (A Creative Harbor)

Dotti - November 7, 2014 - 7:30 pm

Great list and I love the gentle photos that accompany it.

Sarah - November 7, 2014 - 10:59 pm

So many good things here. I love putting away social media any time together, and my husband will leave me random love notes now and again. I love that.

Kristy Lifenreflection - November 8, 2014 - 2:08 pm

So thoughtful and funny too!

Molly - November 10, 2014 - 11:34 pm

Laughter all the way, that is the key

Mollyxxx

BiTi - November 13, 2014 - 5:07 pm

Beautiful post, thank you for sharing. Could I add ‘listen’ to the list? Sometimes your partner just want to an ear :)
Have a lovely weekend!
BiTi

Ramona - November 14, 2014 - 10:15 am

These are nice, we do most of them to each other. Lol at 24 because I am the one who should put away my shoes/clothes/etc. :) :)

Julia - November 24, 2014 - 3:53 am

These were wonderful ideas- Thank you!
And your Fall Break pictures: Just perfect. I loved every one!
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